It is the second month of the second quarter of the year. So lets talk about something that is holding many of us back from greatness. The Company You Keep.
The people you surround yourself with will make or break your positive energy. I know many people argue that if you are content or you are a positive person the people you surround yourself with will not affect you. This is NOT true. Think of a time your mood went sour because of someone else. Or better yet, think of a time you were motivated by a friend, family, or loved one’s accomplishments.
Here’s my story:
I have always loved hanging out with different types of people. I did not really characterize people and think about how they affected my mood, attitude, or my productivity. It was not until I became an adult (21+) that I realized how much the people around me have changed drastically. It is not that I necessarily dropped them from my life, but I strayed away from them. I was doing something that did not align with them so we naturally went our separate ways. Whether that was spending more time on campus at college, going to networking events (which I did a lot), making new friends that did what I did or have the same interest as me, or even staying home more. All of these things are the cause for the drift. I realized then that those friends weren’t moving me in the right direction I wanted to go in. There’s nothing wrong with keeping in touch with them, but I realized that I had no space for their energy or mindset.
Some of these friends contact me and compliment me on how well I’m doing in life, and how they are proud of me. That makes me realize that I am on the right path and crushes any concerns or doubts that I might have.
Beyond that, I am now realizing that I have to take action to surround myself with people who are where I want to be. I am doing that. I am doing that in all aspects but especially on social media. What we fail to realize is that we are on social media a majority of the time and the people we follow affects us. So I am a HUGE believer in unfollowing/unfriending those that do not bring the light that I need and following/friending those that do. It has really impacted me. I am reaching my goals for 2018 slowly but surely.
Give it a try. Surround yourself with positive people who are where you aspire to be, or at least going towards where you aspire to be, and see how much change comes into your life. You will be happier, more motivated, and way more positive. You don’t have to cut off your friends, but just don’t let them take your energy.
At the end of the day you have a choice.